Hi I am a newly breast feeding mother and am curious how it's coming along for you? Have you had to supplement any? Does it get easier? I am having latching issues with mine.,,any suggestions? I had to supplement due to some issues and I feel horrible for not being able to BF right now for my baby :/ I'm still pumping to keep my supply but they can't drink it right now so having to use formula but I feel like a bad mom. :( I really want to BF an stick w/it but it's hard work!
It is hard. I actually supplemented a lot when he first started because he wouldn’t latch right. My supply was affected as a result and I had to work extremely hard to get to a point where I could exclusively bf him. Aka taking supplements, pumping when there was nothing. It’s really hard, especially when you can’t provide. That being said now at almost 7 weeks he’s on formula for sensitivity to lactose. No matter what I did he was so gassy and miserable that I was not enjoying being a mother because he was constantly screaming from being uncomfortable, not sleeping well, never happy, etc. Now he’s still gassy and fussy at times but not nearly as bad. He smiles and laughs and just hangs out content. He naps better. He’s a different baby.
The point I’m making here is - babes do not care how they are fed. They don’t care if it’s bottle or breast or formula or bm. They only care that they’re loved and full. It’s hard. It’s hard to not bf. I spent many nights just crying. I struggled hard with stopping. But my son is happier for it and not miserable and that’s all that counts. The way I see it, I gave my son almost 2 months of bm and established a bond with him I never would have without it. That’s not to say I don’t feel bad that I didn’t go balls to the wall and cut out dairy or something else to see if that’s what it was.
As far as making more milk - I was taking fenugreek and it didn’t work for me. I started drinking a guiness some nights and taking Fairhaven Health’s Nursing Blend 3x a day and it increased my milk to the point that I had no problem providing and made it thick and rich which might have been hurting his tum but if I didn’t take it I didn’t produce (lose lose). I would highly recommend ordering it and trying it out though. I also pumped every morning after his morning feed since you produce the most in the morning. That way you can freeze so you have some in case you need to supplement or if you stop bfing.
All in all just know whatever you choose to do, do it because it’s what’s best for your baby and even yourself. You have to stay sane too mama. A lot of people will give you shit for “giving up” but as long as you LO is happy and healthy, they can go fly a kite. Formula is not giving up. It’s not horrible and unhealthy. It’s not lazy. It’s what you have to do in order to keep your baby thriving sometimes. It still makes me sad and feel guilty that I am not bfing but when I see my baby smile it doesn’t even cross my mind.
Stay strong mama. Only you know what’s best for you and baby.
Sorry that was a lot!!! :).